I’ve been married for over twenty years now. It hasn’t often been easy. Obviously, there has been enough good during all of the trials and tribulations that has kept us together and deepened our love. But overall, life has been both deeply blessed and really fucking hard for much of those twenty years. Some of it was self-inflicted. Some came from circumstance. Some was entirely beyond our control. That’s life, I suppose. Messy, beautiful, exhausting life. Thankfully, we don’